Every single person on the planet worries. You do. I do. We all do.
Shoot, even now I’m worrying a little bit about the boy who will take my daughter out on her first date (when she’s 25 of course).
Sometimes worry can be a good thing.
It can heighten our senses, create due diligence, or even hyper-vigilance.
But most of the time, the only thing worry says about you, is the one thing you don’t want to admit.
You’re a control freak.
Where you experience worry is where you’re attempting to control the uncontrollable. (Tweet that)
I know this to be true.
As you very well may know, I’ve made a great living as an Experience Architect working for literally hundreds of the best artists, entertainers, and communicators out there. I could easily drop a few names, making you think I’m much cooler than I really am, but that’s not the point.
Working under the umbrella of someone else’s name is easy. I can do that blindfolded and with my hands tied behind my back. That’s a no brainer.
But creating awesome experiences, where it’s my name and my reputation at stake, now that seems like a whole another thing altogether.
This week my wife and I’s company Tinsel & Twine, hosts another Christmas Barn Sale. We do a few of these events a year, and they’ve grown tremendously over the years. This year we have over 100 vendors, food trucks, live music, and all sorts of other fun stuff including pictures with Santa.
Because my wife and I believe so strongly in community and we’ve been given far more than we deserve, we use these events to raise money for various projects and non-profits in our community. This year’s event has partnered with a great organization called Franktown Open Hearts.
This summer my wife and I were praying about what God was calling us to with this year’s event and we both came together with the same exact vision to raise $10,000 for Franktown. I wrote about this earlier a couple months ago. It’s the BIGGEST and SCARIEST thing I’ve ever attempted to do.
So as this week has approached I’ve noticed worry start to creep up, deep inside me. It’s been like a slow moving storm cloud, sparking all sorts of anxiety, fear and doubt.
- Anxiety that people won’t show up.
- Fear that we won’t reach our goal and come off looking like failures.
- Doubt that says, we don’t know what we’re doing and will be left alone out in the cold (literally, it’s going to be cold outside).
But then I came across this passage of scripture that jumped right off the page at me.
It was as if God was asking me, now who is wiser, you or me? Who’s sovereign, you or me?
Well, duh, the answer to that question is pretty easy and no one wants to be described as unstable!
But here’s the key.
To experience the gospel and find rest in the gospel means that you live out of the understanding of God’s eternal sovereignty. From the securely attached place of knowing His character (faith), and experiencing his goodness (grace and mercy), you’ll be free to live without worry.
While I know this all to be true, even re-reading that last couple sentences makes me think, yeah sounds pretty easy.
Truth is some days it’s not. Like the last few days for me.
So here’s what I’ve been practicing to re-center myself without worry.
- Speak some truths of the character of God. (He is for me, He is with me, He loves me, He is passionately pursuing me, He’s always faithful, etc.)
- Reflect on times when those truths have felt more tangible than they do today.
- Acknowledge that my feelings may change on a whim, but God’s character never changes. So if those things were true yesterday, then they are still true today.
- Invite the Father into my worry.
Now I may not succeed in meeting the goals I have made for this event. I may not sell enough tickets, I may not have enough help to get everything done that I’d like to. It’s probably going to rain, and it’s definitely going to be cold, but none of those facts take away from the truths I’ve identified and agreed with along the way.
And that’s what really matters for you and I.
Question for you: Where does worry attack you the most? Do you recognize the connection between worry and control in your life?
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