Have you ever just sat and asked yourself, “What do I need?”
I was coming home from an event over the weekend, and I began to think about what I needed. Its kind of a strange line of thought, I suppose, because not many of us entertain these kinds of thoughts. We don’t often just make time and ask that of ourselves.
Well, I do now and let me tell you why.
Several years ago, I went on a retreat and it completely changed my life. The experience was so awesome, that it has become yet another one of those rare, unique markers that identify who I am.
And one of the most important things I’ve learned and still take away from it, even to this day, is the power of learning to ask for what I need.
The reason why this is so important is because:
The Power is in the Asking, not in the Receiving.
Now let me be clear, asking for what we need and asking for what we want are two totally different things, and to confuse them, well, only leads to confusion.
I practice this, honestly speaking, by having a Needs Journal.
In this journal I just start every page by asking myself what do I need. Sometimes, those entries start to take shape like simple lists, other times, they just end up being tears, or even prayers of some kind. Either way, its a process that I believe ultimately, leads me to a safe place of being present and known.
Which is what I’m all about!
Have you ever experienced someone, in an effort of knowing you, asking you if you needed anything?
Its kind of awkward isn’t it?
I mean, we’re taught and pulled by the ways of southern culture, to be accommodating, and being in need, most certainly is not accommodating, not too mention, the cultural push towards pride and self-sufficiency!
But the beauty I’ve found, is by being willing to acknowledge that first we have needs, and then by naming them, we create safe places, which lead others into authentic experiences of us and the world as a whole.
Which begs the question, do you create safe places?
Are you BRAVE enough to look into the closets of your heart and ask yourself what you need?
I can promise you this, there is freedom, peace, joy and most of all, safety on the other side!