We can all relate to knowing that one person, who all they ever seem to do is endlessly promote themselves. Each and every Facebook post or tweet is all about some product they want to sell you, or something they’ve done, are doing, or will do. Everything that comes out of their mouth is basically a plea that says, “Hey, look at me!”
They’ve been called many names:
- Me Monster
- The One-Upper
- The Narcissist
- The Naval Gazer
Brian Regan has a hilarious bit about the Me Monster.
It’s funny to watch and listen as Brian paints the picture of what’s it like to be around one of these people, but you and I both know, we all have the tendency to be one of them.
Humility Is Attractive
There’s no doubt that people want to follow and are attracted to people who are humble. Nobody likes a know it all, and no one can stand to be around a one-upper.
As Christians, we expect our leaders, celebrities, and authority figures to be gracious and humble. We preach messages about how important it is to be servants and reference Christ, as he washed the disciples feet.
The trouble with that is we also want to play the role of the morality police.
It’s hard to show humility while at the same time standing in judgement over someone else’s behavior.
So the question still remains, how do you tell people about your (fill in the blank) without becoming the dreaded me monster?
Seth Godin has famously coined this idea, and several others have joined in commentating that refusing to pick yourself, is just another way of saying you’re afraid. It’s basically another way to guarantee failure.
I’ve got to be honest here, this is one of the biggest things I wrestle with. I’ll make all kinds of excuses, thinking that I’m somehow taking up my cross or being a better Christian, when the truth is, I’m just afraid.
I’ve learned that part of the core issue at stake here is identity.
If you and I are securely attached in our identity, picking ourselves is easy.
While I do believe there is some nuance between picking ourselves and shamelessly self-promoting, the idea that these two concepts are mutually exclusive is ludicrous.
So how can humility and self-promotion co-exist?
Looking Through the Lens of the Gospel
Look at it this way, when you refuse to pick yourself, what you’re actually saying is that the atoning work of Christ was not enough. You’re saying his death, burial, and resurrection was not enough for you. You’re the exception, the one person who is outside the care and the loving arms of God.
You’re saying the words, “It is finished,” means nothing at all.
That may sound harsh, but if we are to look through the lens of the Gospel, then just consider the truth for a moment.
Romans 5:6 says:
What does that mean?
It means you were picked first. Before you even knew you needed to be picked.
So how much more should you be picking yourself?
Now that may be a spin to this idea that you’ve never thought of before, but nevertheless, it’s true.
Understanding and experiencing the Gospel, requires you to acknowledge your need, thereby requiring humility.
So you can see that these two ideas, don’t just co-exist, one presupposes the other.
Do you struggle with promoting your work?
Are you stuck in a place waiting to be picked or waiting to get noticed by someone else?
Are you disguising your fear as humility?
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